I had my superfood protein shake after my workout, helped tidy the house a bit, and then headed to town to take Ethan to the birthday party.
Ethan had a great time playing Nerf Wars at the party and then enjoyed his pizza that I brought for him. It was gluten-free, with olive oil and garlic sauce, and goat's cheddar on top. I keep him away from tomatoes as much as possible as he gets black eyes from them if he eats them too often. He clearly has issues with something in them, be it the naturally occurring MSG or the fact that they are nightshades, I am not sure. At any rate, he can tolerate them on occasion and so he gets a choice about which thing he would like to have - ketchup for his home baked fries that he gets as a treat once in a while, tomato and meat sauce on his gluten-free pasta instead of lentils and butter when he has pasta once in a while, or tomato sauce on his gluten-free pizza that I make him as a treat once in a while or the olive oil and garlic which makes kinda like a garlic bread pizza. Since he was having another school, Aidan, come over and we had planned to have the home cooked fries with gluten-free chicken nuggets and carrots, he really wanted to save his tomato allotment for ketchup on his fries. He does have vegannaise or vinegar on his fries sometimes too. It's great that he has options and enjoys variety!
I appreciated the effort that Alex's parents went through to create such a fun party for the boys! They made shields out of cardboard and painted them in camo and also made two home bases out of cardboard and painted them in camo as well. They played 3 team-play games of Nerf Wars where they had to get 6 elite bullets into the other teams home base. If they were shot in the process of hitting the target, they had to touch their home base and the elite bullet shot didn't count. All of the 11 boys had a good time! Very brave of them to have 11 boys!
After the party, Ethan and I headed home to receive our sleepover guest. Joe had finished tidying the house while we were away which was greatly appreciated! He even did most of the laundry - washed, dried, folded, and put away! This gesture definitely filled my need for contribution for the day!
Ethan and Aidan had a good time making different configurations with Ethan's Nerf guns. We all learned that you could swap pieces from one gun to another. They came up with some pretty cool ones.
Dinner for me was tuna, butternut squash, green beans and cauliflower.
I did some personal growth reading and then headed to bed myself. Along with reading The Power of Focus, I am reading Feeling Good which talks about how our thoughts create our feelings and that by changing our thoughts, we can change our feelings. Eventually the book will get into some Cognitive skills which will be quite interesting to learn about. I expect to learn some new tools for my toolbox from it. I had it on my book shelf from when I was off work several years ago in a deep depression. I clearly wasn't ready to read it them, although it would likely have helped me a great deal!
I believe that we all have our own journey to walk and that we take the path on that journey that we need to take to learn the lessons that we need to learn. So although I am not depressed now, I feel that I can pick up some tools for those days that I am feeling frustrated or down about my current results! After all, I still do have moments of doubt, sadness, and insecurity. It is through all of the lessons that I learn that I work at changing my approach and finding a better and more effective way to deal with future events. I also believe that it is through my self-discovery and willingness to grow and change that I teach Ethan these valuable lessons as well.
Another interesting lesson that I learned about myself today is that I do not accept apologies very well. An acquaintance attempted to make an apology today to me and I interrupted her. Hmmmm interesting. I knew that was what she was trying to do. This is something for me to reflect on. Why is this? I eventually shut up and allowed her to speak and then accepted the apology. I have been working at giving apologies when I notice that I have handled a situation not very well so it is interesting to learn that I also need to work on accepting them more gracefully too! The exploration begins with why do I not accept apologies well, when did this start, and how do I proceed forward to become better in this avenue? Here I grow again!